I agreed to meet a guy and immediately after realised that he was painfully boring. This is a guy I've conversed with for nearly a month, and the entire conversation pretty much follows a pattern where I make a statement, he either agrees with me or is confused/insecure. If he agrees with me, he hasn't given me anything else to go with, so I try a different statement with a question attached to it. If he's insecure (this happens every time I mention something even a tiny bit outside his comfort zone, which I'm discovering is pretty narrow), I throw him something that's a little nearer on the spectrum to what he might be comfortable with. Repeat. He hasn't really brought anything but his own insecurities to the table. But I didn't notice the pattern until after I agreed we should meet him.
Enjoying and continuing a conversation for its challenges, when the goal is to determine whether you like the person behind the words, is something of a problem. I can talk, indefinitely, about nearly anything, forever. I'm the terrible actor who has forgotten that conversation is subtext, and you only talk because you want something. Talking to me is probably like talking to a sentient search engine. Google doesn't need anything from you, it can find it for itself, all it needs is you to agree to let it look.
I am not buying succulents.
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